Grieving mother believes her siblings let her down

Dear Abby

DEAR ABBY: My beautiful adopted son, “Allen,” age 32, took his life six months ago. He had struggled with mental illness his entire adult life. He’d had a close relationship with his cousin – in fact, the boys were inseparable. But when Allen started smoking tobacco at 13, my sister would no longer allow him around her son, even though her husband smoked. Allen was devastated.

My younger brother has a big cabin and hosts annual deer hunting events. I approached him several times to ask if Allen could be invited to the hunt or just be invited to the northern woods for fun. His answer was always “Not this time.”