Dear Abby
DEAR ABBY: My oldest daughter, “Alexa,” is breaking my heart. She’s engaged to a nice enough man she’s been with for five years, but she has cast aside every single wedding tradition that’s important to us. Alexa won’t wear an engagement ring because diamonds are “ugly” and not politically correct. She has refused to have either an engagement party or a bridal shower. Because they are forgoing a registry, my friends have no idea what to get them for wedding gifts. (Turns out, none of my friends are invited to the wedding – only their friends and family.) She also refuses to have a bridal party, so her sisters are hurt because they wanted to be bridesmaids.
I was so looking forward to shopping with her for her bridal gown, but she doesn’t want to wear one. (She bought a plain white dress instead.) Worst of all, her father can’t walk her down the aisle because, in her words, she’s not property to be given away. There will be no reception – just champagne and wedding cake in the basement of the church. There’s no wedding dinner, not even appetizers, and no wedding toasts. There won’t be a first dance because there’s no band.
