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The following article is the fourth installment of a five-week series focusing on raising awareness about domestic violence. October is Domestic Violence Awareness month, and we hope to educate our community on this very important issue. In our communities, the Hays-Caldwell Women’s Center has been serving victims of domestic and dating violence, sexual assault, and child abuse since 1978. Last year, HCWC served 2,257 victims of abuse (face-to-face) primarily from Hays and Caldwell Counties. 1,165 of those were victims of domestic violence.
“Be tough. Be the leader. Don’t cry. Man up.” These are phrases boys and men often hear every day, from their friends, family and communities. Why? Because of social expectations that end up causing everyone harm. The documentary “The Mask You Live In” explores how, starting from early childhood, boys and men are often told to hide their feelings and conform to a narrow version of masculinity.
The film shares real stories from boys, men and professionals from sports, psychology, media and other fields. These experts explain how messages that restrict masculinity to dominance, aggression, power and control hurt boys as they grow up; shaping them into men who often feel pressured into fitting society’s expectations, and the consequences of everyone reinforcing the idea that to be successful in life they must “man up.”
“The Mask You Live In” highlights the urgent need to redefine masculinity. Regardless of gender identity, we can all help dismantle these restrictions by celebrating curiosity, authenticity and compassion for ourselves and each other. Each of us has the power to challenge these harmful expectations in our daily lives by listening more deeply, showing up with empathy, and creating space for everyone to be fully themselves. By doing so, we create a community that does not tolerate abuse.
The future of masculinity isn’t rigid; it’s real, it’s expansive and it starts with us. Strength includes empathy; men, boys and masculineidentifying people don’t have to wear a mask to be seen, heard or loved.
If you or someone you know needs help with an abusive relationship, please call HCWC’s 24hour HELPline at 512396-4357 to talk to our advocates and learn more about advocacy, counseling and group therapy options for survivors.
