Silent victims: The impact of domestic violence on children
The following article is part three of a five-week series focusing on raising awareness about domestic violence. October is Domestic Violence Awareness month, and we hope to educate our community on this very important issue. One-in-three women will experience domestic violence in their lifetime. Locally, the Hays-Caldwell Women’s Center has been serving victims of domestic and dating violence, sexual assault, and child abuse since 1978. Last year, HCWC served 2,055 victims of abuse (face-to-face) primarily from Hays and Caldwell Counties — 816 of those were victims of domestic violence.
Domestic violence comes in many forms including physical assault, emotional/psychological abuse, intimidation, sexual abuse, and the systematic power of control perpetrated by one intimate partner to another. According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, “One in 15 children is exposed to intimate partner violence each year…[and] 90% of these children are eyewitnesses to this violence.” Locally, HCWC provided services and shelter to 227 children that were living in homes with domestic violence.
Some of the adverse effects on children are well known and can have dire consequences. The age of the child and severity of what the child has not only witnessed, but the direct abuse they may have experienced themselves, shape each of these children with either short or long term. Some common effects on children are thoughts of suicide, drug use, increased likelihood of child committing similar acts, risk of long term physical and mental health problems, bed wetting, low self-esteem, self-blaming, and skipping school/lower grades. Other side effects include being withdrawn, depression, and anxiety. The impact on children is often the catalyst that leads the parent to seek help and safety for themselves and their children.
The consequences are unique to each child and situation, and it is vital that community members are encouraged to speak up against domestic violence to help create an environment where victims feel safe and supported. The children growing up in violent homes did not choose the environment, they have little to no control over their living conditions. They are often silent victims, feeling helpless after witnessing the abuse of their parent.
Hays Caldwell Women’s Center provides free individual counseling services to both adults and children to help cope and potentially prevent long term effects. If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, contact the Hays Caldwell Women’s Center to learn more about our services.
If you need shelter, support, or resources due to domestic violence, please call our 24-hour HELPline at 512 396-HELP to talk to our advocates, all of whom are specially trained and educated to help you navigate abusive situations, both before and after leaving. To learn more ways to get involved with HCWC visit our website, www.hcwc.org for opportunities to volunteer, donate or get information on services. You can visit our educational website www. StopTheHurt.org for more educational tools on abuse issues and resources.
